How do i ask a co-worker about her abnormal leg that renders her to unable to walk fast?

i'm not very close to her. i sense she sees me as a friendly person. no one else has asked. instead of moving her left leg straight head, it goes sideways. i don't see her move in lightning motion.How do i ask a co-worker about her abnormal leg that renders her to unable to walk fast?
she knows she is '; different';,to act like the problem does not exist is rude.don't ask in front of the entire office or customers( if that applies)kindly ask her,i am raising a multihandicapped son,now 10 yrs old and in braces to help him walk,i appreciate the ?? over the stares and the mumblings,you are trying to educate yourself. as for the remark,she don't move lightening fast,why the hurry?you said you are friendly,so i am guessing that in an emergency when speed was of value,you would help your co-worker. robinHow do i ask a co-worker about her abnormal leg that renders her to unable to walk fast?
Why on earth is that any business of yours!? There are some questions you just do not ask of someone you're ';not very close to';, and questions about a physical handicap are among them.


Mind your business, and if you should become close, she might volunteer the information.
I agree that it's not necessary for you to know, but if the curiosity is killing you, you could say something like, ';Excuse me. Do you mind if I ask you about your leg?';
Often times it is best we don't ask. When that person is ready she will tell you. The old saying ';curiosity killed the cat'; by asking her you may push her futher away from you. She may also feel very embarrassed about her situation.





Be patiant.
it none of ur bussiness do dont ask
you don't.





if she chooses to tell you then she will tell you!





unless your jobs depend on her being capable of walking fast - it is none of your business and could embarrass or hurt her!





would you want someone asking why you..___________( insert your own disability here).
I think it would be very poor manners to ask her about it. The correct response would be to treat her the same as anyone else.
If your not close to her do not ask unless she brings up the subject.
try being friendly......you can ask by saying.....if you don't mind me asking how did you get that leg,no offence really ?
';What happened to your abnormal leg that renders you incapable of walking fast?';
don't ask, at least talk and give her a chance to tell you, that may seem rude.
On ya dave! Aussie Aussie Aussie
you dont ask - it is none of yuor business - you aint close to her - so whyi on earth should she tell you - if she wanted you to know she would tell you - chances are she just wants to get on with life - leave it alone.


Dave


NSW Disability Services
well just ask do you need help if she is having trouble and then ask her what happend or you know just work with what you have or tell her like you like what she is wearing today and stuff like that and then say what happend.
If you want to know something, ask something. One time my daughter and I were walking down the street and coming toward us was a lady in a wheelchair. As we walked passed her I smiled and said hello. As I got further down the street I noticed my daughter was not at my side. When I looked for her I saw her talking to the lady in the wheelchair and as I got closer I could hear her asking ';How did you get in that wheelchair? The lady explained it had been from polio. More questions. Did it hurt? Could she walk? Did it make her sad? Finally I extended my apologies to the woman and she said, ';Don't apologize. Your daughter has made me happy. Everyone else looks at me like I was some kind of freak and don't speak to me. This has been one of my happiest days I can remember';. So, maybe your co-worker isn't lightening fast and her leg goes sideways, she sees you watching her.
Just walk over to her one day and quietly ask. The odds are you will sound shy and kind of embarrassed to ask. She will see/hear this and probobly will tell you. You might want to start it like ';I was just wondering, and you don't have to answer if you don't want to, but what happened to your leg? I was just wondering and thought it was better to ask then guess.'; My daughter has a disability when using her arms. It's not obvious but it causes problems. People look at her funny sometimes and it usually takes a while for them to ask what's wrong. She would rather tell them what's wrong then let them guess. Most people are embarrassed to ask her, but she would rather that they ask then stair and wonder. The worst thing someone will answer is that it's none of your business. So if that's what they say, then don't worry about it! She might be self conscious about her problem or embarrassed. So try to politely ask, you have nothing to loose.
get to know her..then you can go from there and she might open up a little more.